No, I’m not three or four decades old, I’m twenty three. Like my peers and the ones who’ve gone ahead of me, I’m still figuring out this thing called life. One of its beauty is that you get better with each lesson learned.
I will highlight some of the lessons I had learned by my twenty second birthday.
1. Dare to be bold
In whichever space you go into, you will never lack the naysayers. But does that mean you quit on your dreams and plans? What would’ve happened if Elon Musk had quit after numerous people thought the idea of an electrical car ludicrous? If no one invites you to the table, pull up a seat and take your place.
2. Stay grateful
“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is ‘Thank you,’ it will be enough.” ~Meister Eckhart.
You can never go wrong with gratitude.
3. Pray. Pray. Pray.
I don’t give a hoot whether everyone in your so-called circle deems reversing God as barbaric or failing to be woke but you have to pray. Pray. Pray. Pray. The Lord promises victory to always be yours. Glorify the Lord through your actions.
Never rely on what you think you know. Just like you would culture your relationship with your boyfriend or girlfriend, equally nurture your relationship with God because He is there waiting for you to let Him in. And who better to let in than the one who made you and knows everything about you and still loves and accepts you the way you are?
4. It’s okay not to be okay
You’re not a doll. All your days cannot be filled with joy. We all have the bad days. Embrace them. Embrace your emotions. Learn to decipher what your emotions are trying to tell you because your emotions are data and data needs to be processed to get information. Improve your emotional intelligence by being increasingly self aware-something most of us learn late, unfortunately.
5. Call your parents
Need I stress this? Your family will always be there to hold your hand both in the light and dark times. Apart from God, they are all you have got in this world and amongst the few who hold your best interests at heart.
6. Don’t be afraid to walk away
Delete that number. Stop texting back. Cut off those toxic people. Your older self will thank your younger self for taking such measures early because you’re the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with and misery loves company.
7. Be humble
Strive to pride yourself in being a lifelong learner because everyone is an expert in something and everyone has a story to tell. You’re not a monopoly of knowledge. Also, if you think education is expensive, try ignorance.
I will leave you with what Albert Einstein said eons ago, an unexamined life, is not a life worth living.