Friday is just around the corner and #ParteAfterParte is a slogan we all know too well at campus… Don’t we? You and your bestie will probably be heading out to that campus party around college or city near campus and you’re ready for a great time!
Before you go, I want to talk to you about how to be safe at such campus parties. Because all those horror stories you read about college girls going missing or getting drugged are real. And we’re friends now so I desperately want you to be safe when you go out.
I’m going to give you some tips for staying safe at college parties below, but the best piece of advice I can give you is to TRUST YOUR GUT. If something doesn’t feel right, it’s probably not. And if you’re past the point of knowing if something doesn’t seem right or not, girl you need to go home!
Confidence is Key
It is! If you give off nervous vibes and try and hide in a corner, someone who is looking to hurt someone is going to hone in on that!
So be confident! Make friends at the campus party! Even if you don’t feel confident inside, just act like a confident person and that’s enough to make people think you are.
You can keep an empowering saying in your head and repeat it to yourself whenever you get shy. I tell myself that I will probably never see any of these people again or if I feel particularly feisty I say “Anyone who isn’t me or my friends doesn’t matter” because at the end of the day my I only really care about what my friends think of me. And so should you.
Watch Your Cup
This one should go without saying, always watch your cup! Don’t put it down! EVER!
Putting something in your drink is the easiest way to make you vulnerable if someone wants to hurt you. So, don’t give them the opportunity to get to your drink. If you need to go to the bathroom, take it with you or finish your drink first.
This also means you shouldn’t accept a drink from anyone. If they want to get you a drink, go with them to the bar or where ever the alcohol is and watch them pour it. Or better yet, pour it yourself!
If you’re ever handed a drink and expected to drink it you can always fake drink it. Pretend you’re taking sips but you’re not actually letting any of it touch your mouth. If you need to get rid of a drink, you can always just “accidentally” spill it.
Have a Plan to Get Home
This is important even if you aren’t planning on drinking. You need to have a plan of how you’ll get home before you walk into the party.
Are you going to have a designated driver? Can you trust them to not drink?
Are you going to Uber home? Are you going to get picked up? Or are you just going to spend the night at the party?
You really need to have a plan so that you can relax and enjoy the night. You also should not be making any decisions if you’ve had alcohol or anything else.
If you’re the designated driver, it’s really important that your friends can trust you! So don’t let them down!
Know Your Limits and Say Something
The best thing you can do for yourself is to know your limits. You have to know what you can and can’t drink and how much. Also, you need to know what you’re comfortable with!
You also need to figure out what your limit is physically before you leave home. Are you comfortable making-out with someone or not? Are you comfortable with going further than that?
No shame, whatever your limit is, tell your friends and have them help you stay within your limits. Never let anyone pressure you into something you don’t want to do. Always say something to the person you’re with and always make sure your friends know when to step in and give you an out.
Don’t Get Wasted
If you’ve been to a campus party before, you’ve probably seen the really really drunk girl. She can’t stand, isn’t coherent, and very vulnerable. Maybe you’ve been this girl. I have so much fear for these girls when I see them because if anyone is going to get taken advantage of it’s going to be them.
When I see these girls, I look to see if they have friends around that are looking out for her. If she doesn’t have anyone I become her friend and make sure she gets home. So this is my warning to not get wasted because someone might not be looking out for you! I don’t want you to get taken advantage of! It’s sad that we live in a world where we have to worry about that, but we do.
Don’t post pictures you may regret.
If you have to ask someone if you should post a picture, don’t post it. Always be aware of what is in a picture and if you would want your family, friends, college or future employers to see it. Yes, it may be funny to post a video of your friends taking shots on Snapchat, but make sure it won’t come back to bite you in the butt.
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