Times have really changed, all thanks to the novel Coronavirus. We can no longer enjoy the simple gifts of life on campus. Imagine after a long day of social distancing, you end up laying awake at night in your room thinking about all of the things you miss are missing out on! Gathering in groups, getting dinner with friends, spring sports. The list is endless. But there’s one thing that might be hitting your the hardest: the loss of dating.
While just a few weeks ago, you were on campus surrounded by your crushes with every opportunity to flash them a smile or invite them to hang, now everyone is cast off to their respective houses, forced to talk over DM and Whatsapp or record silly videos on Tiktok with no shot of a physical connection.
Well, I’m here to tell you that not all is lost. Just because we’re social distancing, doesn’t mean we can’t date. In fact, right now may be the best opportunity we’ve ever had to make a real connection with someone. Here are some tips on how to make the most of quarantine dating and make a real connection.
It’s time to Establish an Emotional Connection
It might seem hopeless to start dating right now, since everything will have to be over the phone and who knows when you’ll be able to meet your suitor in person. But there could actually be a benefit to this setup. Right now, your Facebook or Instagram inbox is flooding with messages from guys you might never had had an opportunity to notice before. With nothing else to do, you can get to really talk to someone, to get to know them, a strong emotional connection could form.
Your high school crush might have a cheeky smile, but when you’ve been talking for days on end since school closed and they can barely hold a conversation, you might realize it’s time to move on. On the other hand, the guy you bumped into while attending a common unit and who you’ve been ignoring for years might prove to be hilarious over text and the perfect person to help pass the coronavirus quarantine (and maybe even spend time with after).
Use this time to practice your flirting.
Just like anything else, when it comes to flirting, practice makes perfect. You may be a pro at winking at your crush when you pass them in at the students centre, but when it comes to flirting over text, you struggle to come up with something cute and clever. Well, use this time to sharpen those skills! Practice by texting your friends some cute text openers, and then when you’re ready, unleash them on your crush.
People are going to be much more receptive to compliments and flirting right now, because they’ve probably been hearing them less these days, and we’re all in need of more human interaction. Plus, if you swing and miss (your joke doesn’t quite land), there’s always tomorrow (and the next day, and the day after that, and the day after…ugh).
Get creative with Coronavirus Dates.
So you’ve been talking to your crush for days on end and things are going really well—now what? It’s time to go on a date! And yes, that is possible to do right now. Get online and have a virtual date on Zoom, Google meet or even other video calling platforms. Better still, have dinner over FaceTime.
If you’re both into art, many museums are offering tours on the web, and of course, you can catch one of the many Instagram Live concerts that artists are putting on every day to help people cope with the coronavirus stress. Just because we’re stuck at home, doesn’t mean romance has to go out the window. When you’re ready to elevate the relationship from DMing to dating, your options are endless.
Think twice before getting back with your ex.
The one thing that you have to be extra careful with is getting back with your ex. The urge to do so makes sense, and you’re not alone if you’ve been thinking about it.
In times of depression, sickness, uncertainty, people tend to go back to their bad habits which could be an ex. It’s important to remember though, the problems you had with your ex are still there, they haven’t gone away just because you’re both bored and lonely.
That being said, there are exceptions of course. If you broke up with someone for different reasons (long distance, different priorities, etc.) and big deal breakers didn’t play a factor, it actually may be a good time to reignite a conversation and see where things go. Maybe you can actually use this time to communicate and work it out but in most cases it’s going to be a mistake to go back to your ex.