The wearer of the shoe knows where it pinches hardest. Growing up, I had always taken lightly this saying. Today, I see it differently, the wearer of the shoe surely does know where it pinches hardest.
Thursday morning and all through the day, we woke up to a series of Instagram stories on Sheila Kanini’s page, documenting the harrowing experiences models have had to go through in their craft. Exploitation and even sexual harassment of girls as young as 19 years of age.
Now, I am not the wearer of this shoe, thus, I have no idea, where it pinches. All I see is the glitzy billboards on the streets, the glossy images on the magazines, yet these girls have not been paid or worse still, have had to stoop as low as trading sexual favors for this job. Shame.
The twitters of this world have a hashtag going: #paymodelske. Let your voice be heard. Hop on to this wagon. As I said, I am not the best at telling where the shoe pinches, but, why don’t you tell us your experience, enlighten us.
Going by the same theme, why would we be so okay with sexual harassment of girls and women and their subsequent exploitation? A girl of about 19, shared her testimonial on the Instagram stories where she said that she was asked to give lap dances in the nude, to old men for the sake of this job. Thankfully enough, she said no.
The problem may lie in societal perception of female sexuality. It has long been deemed as an item which any man in a position of authority or power over a woman can exercise at HIS own discretion and free will. Couple that with rising poverty; the ever widening gap between the rich and the poor and the pressure from society to ‘make something of your life’ and we have a perfect recipe, or maybe just part of.
Sexual harassment has never and should never be an issue that you and I should tolerate, an issue that you and I should be comfortable with, an issue that you and I should fold our arms across our chests and say, ”Ah, did you see how she was dressed? She was practically begging for it! It’s her fault.” No. Don’t let that be you.
Be it on campus or anywhere out there, never allow complacency to swallow you up, to hold you in its poisoned arms and cradle you until you slumber, a sleep you find really difficult to wake from.
Let not the only reason you decide to help a girl or woman in distress be a result of the, ’what if she were my sister’ thinking. Help her because she is human and is deserving of dignity just as much as the next man. Let not your judgement be clouded by the poison of authority, be human, show kindness and respect. Oh and yes, please #paymodelske!