For so long you wanted to just grow up and become an adult. Every phase of your life, you were anxious of the next phase in your life: kid, teenager and you just wanted to be an adult.
Adulthood comes and it’s not what you signed up for.
You become more aware of responsibilities, careers and decisions to be made. You start evaluating the choices you’ve made especially regarding your career and personal relationships. Is this the life you want to live for the rest of your life? Is this the kind of job you want to be stuck in from 8-5? Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? You second guess every decision that you’re making and feel that nothing is where you want it to be.
Below is a list of things to do to help you overcome your QLC.
Social media will be the end of you. People only post the highlight reel of their lives. You only get to see the filtered section of their lives and because of this, you shouldn’t compare. I read something recently called what I didn’t post on Instagram. It is a collection of short essays about real lives and the things we filter out before we present them to the outside world. What you see is a beautiful wedding but you don’t get to see the hectic planning for the wedding behind the scenes.
Put Yourself First.
Be selfish with how you spend your time. You are the one that is going to live that life. Not everyone in your circle is meant to be in it. There are certain things that you have to go through alone. Be careful though as this can be a double edged sword.
Quit Being too Hard on Yourself.
Be honest with yourself. It’s okay to fail. All those success stories you hear have some back story to them. Remember you have to start from somewhere to get where you want but there are hurdles along the way. Give yourself second chances and don’t forget what your dreams are. Dreams are all we have and what we are made of. Don’t beat yourself up for seemingly trivial things.
If you’re feeling like this, relax and be happy for you are on the right path. Feeling unsure and lost is part of your path. Don’t avoid it. See what those feelings are showing you and use it. Take a breath. You’ll be okay even if you don’t feel like it all the time.