By Cherotich Karren
At the heart of life lie the relationships we have with other people. Relationships are very vital in everyone’s life. They not only give us a chance to interact with other people but also help us to discover who we really are.
We all crave for certain social needs. We need someone who long to meet us after that long day walking from lecture hall to lecture hall and keep checking on us every time. Isn’t that sweet?
When the word relationships pops up what comes into minds of most of us is boyfriend and girlfriend. I’d like to look into the past and share some of the relationship advice for people who would like to walk this path.
We all have expectations on the kind of men we want to have relationships with as campus ladies. We have standards, we don’t want to settle for less. Yes, it’s true some people find their missing rib on campus but mine isn’t just here.(not that am tired of looking).
It is imply a game of luck. Some students who believe in campus love say that they like to choose between tall and short, black and white others don’t even know how to describe what love is. They say love is a mystery and they just find themselves entangled in it. I personally believe that campus relationships are not worth going into. Your love life is your own business obviously but I’d steer clear of these big no-no’s of campus romance let me share with you a few
Violence in the university dating scene is way getting too common. Nowadays we hear stories of unhealthy relationships that end up in murder. I am not here to scare anyone but is it really worth bumping into a random stranger and accepting their proposal to be their girlfriends?
Dating in campus is now so random with people texting with emoji and navigating an increasingly fluid sexuality it can seem almost impossible to be seen without a boyfriend. C’mon its Campus! Why would you allow someone to batter you. Walk away you aren’t married yet. Vulnerability is an ugly thing and if you don’t turn down those chores you’ll do them forever. learn to say NO and and mean it!!
Is it Really Love?
It’s easier to lust than love. Campuses are hot beds for all kinds of relationships from everlasting true love through to awkward one-night-stands. Well, most people don’t really know what they are looking for in a relationship. And my advice don’t be an experiment.
I will never forget my encounter with a guy recently who has been in six relationships since his first year. He couldn’t give me any reason for going into a relationship with him. What he said was “all my friends are in relationships” and you think you need one too? NO that’s so lame!! Ladies, any time a guy proposes to you ask him what his reasons are however much you like him. And if he can’t answer that, he’s about to waste your time and break your heart. RUN!
It is understandable that you’d be attracted to the person impacting wisdom and understanding to you on a weekly basis. These relationships are common and most universities are silent on their acceptability. Truth be told these relationships never have a happy ending. You will be exposed because it will definitely explode at some point and you’ll have to face all the awkwardness and shame alone. Just don’t do it or at least wait until you have a graduated so you can date your former lecturer.
In romantic movies one brings the other flowers, chocolates and surprises them with other spontaneous acts of love. But these things rarely happen in real life; don’t have a lot of expectations. All the best to all you ladies out there trying to make it work. Remember: not all relationships fail.