What is French Kissing? Tips on how to French Kiss

French kissing

Sometimes, it feels like all anyone can talk about is french kissing (or frenching). If it sounds like everyone’s always discussing their language class in the the hallways of your school, you know what I’m talking about.

Have you frenched anyone yet? Are you going to french them? Do you want to french? But what exactly do people mean when they say french kissing? How is that different than just kissing or making out? And how do you learn to do it like a pro without totally embarrassing yourself in front of your crush?

Don’t worry, that’s what I’m here for. Kissing is important, in fact, studies show that “kissing is critical to how modern [people] choose a sexual partner.” So, it’s important that you know what you’re doing and you do it well. Here’s everything you need to know about french kissing: what it means, why it’s called that, and, of course, how to do it right.

What is French Kissing?

A French kiss occurs when you’re kissing someone with your mouth open, and your tongues are involved in the action. So, next time someone says, “did you kiss with tongue?” you can respond by saying, “yup, we frenched.”

History of the French Kiss

It is believed that the term french kiss originated in the beginning of the 20th century by the American and English. Back then French people apparently had a reputation for being very adventurous and passionate when it came to sex. So, when you kissed with tongue and did so passionately, you were said to be doing it like the French.

French Kissing Tips for Campus Ladies

Kissing is without a doubt important. The author of one scientific study on kissing suggests that “kissing synchronizes our brains to produce a state or conditions for a better understanding of each other—or for getting in the right mood for partner-oriented behavior.”

1. It comes naturally

The thought of touching someone’s tongue with your own tongue can be scary. What if you thrust it in too hard? What do you do with it when it’s in there? Don’t worry though, french kissing honestly comes pretty naturally, and while it may take you a few go arounds to get it right, you’ll be a pro in no time. But, just in case you want a quick walk through, here are some steps that you should take.

First, go in for a kiss and close your eyes. Part your lips slightly, and maybe start off by placing your lips so they are almost stacked on top of your partners.

2. Enjoy the Kissing and Sucking

Then, enjoy some light kissing and sucking for a moment. When you’re ready to introduce the tongue, do it slowly and gently. Maybe try touching their tongue, then wiggle it around a little. Have a little fun with it. I once had a friend named Zoe who would trace the letters of her name with her tongue while french kissing. There’s nothing specific that you have to do with it, just whatever feels good and right.

Don’t jab your tongue in there, and don’t use so much that you start feeling like a dog. Keep it gentle and subtle. Leave them wanting more.

Once you start french kissing more, you will realize certain things you like to do. Maybe you like to tease your tongue a little before going full swing. Or, you like to trace your tongue across their lips. Seriously, the options are endless. It’s all about preference.