Every student taking a college degree has a dream of finishing their course and getting a job afterwards. Once they have graduated and are out there, they do what it takes to get an employment.
They become glad when they find jobs but things start getting complicated to them once they are in.
This is because many of them cannot adapt to what they are employed to do fast and some of them come to realize that their passion do not even match what they studied and now has employed them.
Most of them therefore end up becoming unhappy and unsatisfied. This has led to some losing their jobs. We therefore have always asked this question, what happened?
The answer is that there is a missing piece and this points to four things when broken down.
According to research, many millennial grew up under failed parenting strategies.
For instance, they were told that they are special all the time and that they can have anything they want in this life just because they want it.
A child who gets a participation medal for coming in last for example, is not right because it devalues the medal and the reward for those who actually worked hard.
Additionally, the child who came in last actually feel embarrassed because they know they did not deserve it and therefore makes them feel even worse.
Some of these kids got As not because they earned it but because the teachers did not want to deal with their parents. So you take these group of people, they graduate school, they get jobs and they are thrust into the real world.
Soon, they realize that they are not special as their parents frequently told them, and that their parents cannot get them a promotion. They also realize that they are getting nothing for coming in last and that they cannot have something just because they want it. This realization shutters their entire self-image.
Therefore we end up having a whole entire generation with lowest self-esteems than the previous generations. This forms one of the reasons why they cannot adapt to their jobs and achieve their goals of “making impact” as they wanted.
Facebook, Instagram and the Crave for Likes
We are growing in a world controlled by Facebook and Instagram. A world in which we are good at filtering things; that life is amazing even though one is depressed. Everyone sounds tough that, “I got it all figured out” when the reality is opposite.
Dopamine, a chemical that makes us feel good when we smoke and drink, is the exact chemical that makes us feel good when we get texts.
That is why when we get low and we feel like we had it all we text many people because it feels good when we get a response. Same to likes on social media.
We care more about likes such that when we do not get likes we become traumatized that people do not like us anymore or that maybe we did something wrong. There are restrictions on gambling, smoking and drinking but none on social media.
Therefore, young people have all the freedom to access and post as many things as possible with an aim of getting likes because they actually feel good when they get responses and likes.
They therefore know that solution to problems related with adolescence is found on social media.
The happy feeling they get when accessing social media and their devices leads them to something. They do not actually have coping mechanisms when it comes to dealing with stress.
So when significant stress start to show up in their lives, they are not turning to a person but a device. They are turning to things that offer temporary relief.
We know that people who spend most time on social media have high rates of depression than those that spend less time there. Alcohol is not bad, but too much of alcohol is dangerous. So is social media.
People from this generation who are at their entry level jobs therefore know that the only way to deal with stress and issues that may have been caused by failed parenting, is social media and through technological devices.
This is because they have always depended on social media and other devices for feeling good and now cannot deal with people at their place of employment.
They cannot even make deep meaningful relationships at work because they only believe in superficial relationships from social media.
An Impatient Generation
Young people are in a hurry to achieve their goals. This is a generation where young people need things to happen fast and they fail to realize that time is needed to make that a success.
You meet wonderful, fantastic, idealistic and hardworking youth and you ask them how they are doing at their work and they tell you they want to quit.
What is shocking is that they have not even completed a year at their place of work. They just started and because they are in a hurry to achieve goals they want to quit because it is moving slow.
A Careless Environment
We are putting our kids in corporate environments that care about the numbers than the employees. Environments that care more about short-term gains than long-term life.
These environments are not helping them gain their confidence and skills of cooperation that are highly needed in the job sector.
Environments that are not teaching them the joys and impacts and the fulfillment you get from working hard for something for a long period of time that cannot be done in a month or a year.
We are putting them in corporate environments that are not helping them overcome challenges of the digital world and finding more balance.